February 2013 Synchroblog: Cross Gender Friendships

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Many still buy into the idea that men and women can’t be friends and married people can never have a close and authentic relationship with a member of the opposite sex.

Sexualization, fear, shame and power issues often stop men and women from loving each other as friends; and the divide is frequently perpetuated in the Christian community by keeping men in men’s groups and women in women’s groups.

However, there is a growing consensus that cross gender friendships are not only possible, but important, valuable and beneficial in helping us to overcome sexism in our communities, eliminate harmful stereotypes and promote understanding between men and women that can lead to greater justice and equality.

This month we invite you to blog about cross gender friendships.

Here are some questions to get your creative juices flowing:

Can cross-gender friendships diffuse power in gender relations? Must all friendships fit into heterosexual scripts with a romantic trajectory? Can men and women partner together in friendship to overcome patriarchy and sexism? Can deep friendships between men and women overcome objectification and inequality found in many heterosexual romantic relationships?

As always, post your link here by Tuesday, February 12. The link list will get posted on Wednesday, February 13.  After the link list is posted we ask that everyone add the list of links to the end of their post as this allows readers to move from one post to the next easily and it increases traffic for everyone’s blog.

We ask that all participants please add this short paragraph to the beginning of your synchroblog post:

This post is part of the February Synchroblog “Cross Gender Friendships”.  I will list the links to all the contributions at the end of this post as soon as they are available.

46 Responses to “February 2013 Synchroblog: Cross Gender Friendships”

  1. Chris Jefferies February 7, 2013 at 4:31 am #

    I’ve just posted my contribution to the February Synchroblog – It’s called ‘Best of both’ and is at http://jesus.scilla.org.uk/2013/02/best-of-both.html

    • Liz February 9, 2013 at 5:15 pm #

      thanks Chris. I’ll put up a post on Wednesday with the links to all the contributions.

  2. Jeremy Myers February 8, 2013 at 9:37 pm #

    My post will go up Tuesday. Here is the link:

    Are Cross-Gender Friendships Possible?

  3. Lynne Tait February 10, 2013 at 11:03 pm #

    Have just put mine up : “Little Boxes”
    http://blestpickle.blogspot.com.au/2013/02/little-boxes.html

  4. Glenn Hager February 11, 2013 at 11:38 am #

    Here’s mine, crazy title and all.
    http://www.glennhager.com/2013/02/sluts-and-horndogs/

    • Liz February 11, 2013 at 11:56 am #

      LOL! Thanks, Glenn.

  5. Dan Brennan danjbrennan February 11, 2013 at 3:45 pm #

    Liz,here is Lynne Tait’s :http://blestpickle.blogspot.com.au/2013/02/little-boxes.html

    • Liz February 11, 2013 at 5:49 pm #

      Isn’t that the same one that is in the comment above from Lynne Tait?

      • danjbrennan February 11, 2013 at 5:52 pm #

        Totally blind I am!! I didn’t see it. Great.

  6. alisewrite February 12, 2013 at 9:08 am #

    Here’s my link! http://alise-write.com/what-i-get-from-my-cross-gender-friend/

  7. Paul Sims (@ThePaulSims) February 12, 2013 at 10:13 am #

    Hello! Here is my contribution to this month’s synchroblog: http://thepaulsims.posterous.com/navigating-the-murky-water-of-cross-gender-fr

  8. Jonalyn Fincher February 12, 2013 at 11:26 am #

    Here’s my title and link: “Why I Don’t Give out Sex like Gold Star Stickers” http://soulation.org/jonalynblog/?p=3337 My post will go up tonight at 7pm.

  9. adm February 12, 2013 at 11:28 am #

    Mine! Insane title, on purpose: Friendship: The most powerful force against patriarchy, sexism, and other misunderstandings about people who happen to not be us, in this case, between men & women

    http://amydmartin.wordpress.com/2013/02/12/friendship-the-most-powerful-force-against-patriarchy-sexism-and-other-misunderstandings-between-people-who-happen-to-not-be-us-in-this-case-between-men-women/

    • Jonalyn Fincher February 12, 2013 at 6:07 pm #

      Liz, Fun title. Wanted to get your full name so I can list you as the author properly. :)

      • Jonalyn Fincher February 12, 2013 at 6:12 pm #

        Just figured it out, Amy Martin!

  10. Maria Kettleson Anderson February 12, 2013 at 12:56 pm #

    Here’s mine, entitled “Myth and Reality: Cross-Gender Friendships”:
    http://www.myrealjourney.com/2013/02/myth-and-reality-cross-gender.html

  11. brambonius February 12, 2013 at 2:30 pm #

    I hope I’m not too late with this first contribution to the synchroblog after a long time: ‘nothing more natural than cross-gender friendships? ‘ on Brambonius in English: http://bramboniusinenglish.wordpress.com/2013/02/12/nothing-more-natural-than-cross-gender-friendships/

  12. Maria Kettleson Anderson February 12, 2013 at 2:48 pm #

    Liz, it still says that my comment is awaiting moderation. Can you let me know you see it and I’m in? (And delete this comment then?)

  13. Marta Layton February 12, 2013 at 3:48 pm #

    Here’s my reply: http://www.fidesquaerens.org/blog/?p=1151

  14. kathyescobar February 12, 2013 at 5:44 pm #

    hey there, running out the door and gone tonight until kind of late but when i get home will get the final draft published.

    here’s the link, though: http://kathyescobar.com/2013/02/11/the-road-to-equality-is-paved-with-friendship

    kathy escobar – the road to equality is paved with friendship

    thanks, liz!

  15. Liz February 12, 2013 at 9:36 pm #

    Hey everyone – you can find the link list here: http://synchroblog.wordpress.com/2013/02/12/link-list-february-2013-synchroblog-cross-gender-friendships/

  16. Liz February 12, 2013 at 9:47 pm #

    The list is up but if more links come in I will add them to the list.

  17. karlw February 12, 2013 at 10:37 pm #

    hey liz, i have posted on my blog, but i am not sure how to do the pingback or link
    karlwheeler.wordpress.com

  18. Dan Brennan February 13, 2013 at 12:31 am #

    Here is Jim Henderson’s link: http://jimhendersonpresents.com/jesus-had-a-thing-for-women-and-so-do-i/

  19. Maria Kettleson Anderson February 13, 2013 at 11:40 am #

    I asked Liz via FB message to correct my name last night, but now you all are posting the list and it hasn’t been fixed. If my name “Maria Kettleson Anderson” is too long for you, make it “MK Anderson” or “Maria Kettleson” if you like, but that name on her links list isn’t me, K? Please please fix it?

  20. Liz February 13, 2013 at 12:54 pm #

    I made a mistake when I first created the list of links. I should have used the name “Maria Kettleson Anderson” rather than “Maria K Anderson” I have now corrected the list on this page and on my blog. Please check your list and make the correction if needed. Thanks so much! I apologize for the inconvenience.

  21. D. L. Webster February 13, 2013 at 7:57 pm #

    I just learned about this! I didn’t even know where it was! Here’s mine: http://gzmproductions.com/dlwebster/index.php?page=post&post=2816

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